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Sharing Family History With Kids: Because Life Isn't Fair

3/21/2017

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Sharing Family History With Kids: Because Life Isn't Fair // GrowingLittleLeaves.com
One day, in July 2013, I was researching at the Cuyahoga County Archives in Cleveland, Ohio. All of my great-grandparents had been immigrants, and they had all settled in Cleveland, so this was a great place for researching my family. I had had some luck finding naturalization papers online for all of my great-grandparents, with the exception of one: George Bellan, who was born Juraj Beljan in Croatia (then Austria-Hungary) in the 1870s. While at the archives, the research aid brought out their volumes of Cuyahoga County naturalization records, and, sure enough, she found my great-grandfather. But what I read on his Declaration of Intention affected me a lot more than I ever thought anything on those forms could. 

Under 'visible distinctive marks' George indicated 'lame in right leg.' My grandfather (George's son) had never talked much about his dad, and my uncle and mom were both very young children when their grandfather had passed away, so not much was known about him in family storytelling. But now we knew that, at age 41, he had trouble walking. I don't know if this was a temporary or permanent condition for him, but that didn't matter to me as I was looking at this document.

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I was born with a chronic vascular disease that affects me through my left pelvic area all the way down my entire left leg and foot. It's a degenerative disease with no cure, and I have slowly, but steadily, lost some mobility due to its progression. Despite wearing a very, very strong compression stocking, my leg and foot visibly swell up, and I usually walk with an uneven gait, although some days it is more noticeable than others. It's a pretty rare condition and, before the advent of the Internet, I was the only person I knew that had it. It has always been isolating for me, and I've always felt like nobody really understood how it affected me, both physically and psychologically.

Now, I had found an ancestor who lived with with a similar physical limitation, and discovering this actually made me emotional. This man raised eight children. From 1900 through 1930, he is listed as a 'laborer' and 'cement finisher' on census records and city directories - very physical jobs - and we all know there was no such thing as an 8-hour work day back then for working-class immigrants. And he did all this on a bum leg and no ibuprofen. After processing all this, I remember thinking, 'I wish I had known about his life and his condition when I was younger.' If he could do it, so could I.

Not long after that discovery of mine, I started Growing Little Leaves. As a parent, you hope and pray that your child will not have to face too much adversity in his or her life, but you also know that it is unavoidable. Life's not fair. But just knowing that someone else has gone through the same struggles as you have - especially when that person is a family member - gives you both a comfort and a power that is hard to explain.

Kids need to know that their struggles aren't unique. Listen, I understand why kids might not want to hear mom and dad drone on about how they have gotten through life (so far). But maybe a story of how great-grandpa did it will make a connection with them in a way that will help them feel like they are not alone, and that they have the genes within them (literally) to conquer life's adversities.


To read more about how family stories can benefit children in times of adversity, please read the article and research paper linked below: 

The Stories That Bind Us   The New York Times   15 Mar 2013
Family Narrative Interactive and Children's Sense of Self (PDF)  

Family Process  Vol. 45, No. 1  2006

This post is part of the Why Share Family History With Children Blog Link Up administered by Nicole Dyer at FamilyLocket.com. Click the image below to read posts by other contributors!
Why Share Family History With Children Blog Link Up
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©2017 Emily Kowalski Schroeder
13 Comments
Devon Noel Lee link
3/21/2017 09:32:20 am

I LOVE this post. Life isn't fair and our children need to know it. Your discovery of commonality with your ancestor is also pretty special for you. I'm so glad you have the perspective. You can do it, but thank goodness for Ibuprofen these days!

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Emily
3/22/2017 12:19:16 pm

Thank you for reading, Devon!

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Jana K Greenhalgh link
3/21/2017 11:34:50 am

Wonderful post! Emily, thanks for sharing this awesome example of how kids benefit from knowing about their ancestors. The discovery of your ancestor who was lame in the right leg, and your immediate connection to him is amazing.

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Emily
3/22/2017 12:19:43 pm

Thank you, Jana!

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Amy Archibald link
3/21/2017 12:21:20 pm

"A comfort and a power that is hard to explain." - I love this thought, because it is so true. I know that our ancestors have the ability to watch over and protect us and they have more access to us when we turn our hearts to them as we search for them and love them. Thank you for sharing!

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Emily
3/22/2017 12:20:24 pm

Thanks for reading, Amy!

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Amberly link
3/21/2017 01:36:32 pm

I really love this post Emily. It made me think of a post I wrote found here: https://thegenealogygirl.blog/2016/04/04/uncle-darrell-part-xii-final-thoughts/

I love that you felt a connection to your great grandfather in such a personal way. Thank you for sharing!

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Emily
3/22/2017 01:49:53 pm

Thanks for reading, Amberly!

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Katie Andrews Potter link
3/22/2017 08:53:57 am

Emily, I love this. I've made connections with ancestors like this that make me feel like I can go on, too. Love that you did too. ❤️

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Emily
3/22/2017 12:21:04 pm

Thanks, Katie. Seriously, sometimes I think I've made more personal connections with dead people than with the living!

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Allison Kimball link
3/22/2017 12:12:32 pm

beautiful!!!

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Emily
3/22/2017 12:21:25 pm

Thanks for reading, Allison!

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Alexis Maurer link
3/22/2017 01:42:52 pm

What a powerful story and cool connection to an ancestor! Thank you so much for sharing this! The power in family history really is hard to explain. Love this!

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